Genesis 45: 1-15
Then Joseph could no longer control himself before all those who stood by him, and he cried out, “Send everyone away from me.” So no one stayed with him when Joseph made himself known to his brothers. And he wept so loudly that the Egyptians heard it, and the household of Pharaoh heard it. Joseph said to his brothers, “I am Joseph. Is my father still alive?” But his brothers could not answer him, so dismayed were they at his presence.
Then Joseph said to his brothers, “Come closer to me.” And they came closer. He said, “I am your brother, Joseph, whom you sold into Egypt. And now do not be distressed or angry with yourselves because you sold me here, for God sent me before you to preserve life. For the famine has been in the land these two years, and there are five more years in which there will be neither plowing nor harvest. God sent me before you to preserve for you a remnant on earth and to keep alive for you many survivors.
So it was not you who sent me here but God; he has made me a father to Pharaoh and lord of all his house and ruler over all the land of Egypt. Hurry and go up to my father and say to him, ‘Thus says your son Joseph, God has made me lord of all Egypt; come down to me; do not delay. You shall settle in the land of Goshen, and you shall be near me, you and your children and your children’s children, as well as your flocks, your herds, and all that you have. I will provide for you there, since there are five more years of famine to come, so that you and your household and all that you have will not come to poverty.’ And now your eyes and the eyes of my brother Benjamin see that it is my own mouth that speaks to you. You must tell my father how greatly I am honored in Egypt and all that you have seen. Hurry and bring my father down here.” Then he fell upon his brother Benjamin’s neck and wept, while Benjamin wept upon his neck. And he kissed all his brothers and wept upon them, and after that his brothers talked with him.
Sermon Text
Fresh off of a week of COVID, I hope that the words I have for you make sense. It has been a week of cold medicine, of sleeping more than I thought was possible, and of having plenty of time with my thoughts. Perhaps a sort of brilliance matriculated in the midst of all that, or a delirium. We are going to find our through our discussion today, a discussion of one of the most essential pieces of our faith and also the hardest we could ever attempt to embark upon. This is the work of forgiveness, the most difficult thing we ever are asked to do as Christians.
Forgiveness is the essence of faith. Even before Jesus walked the Earth, God was giving instructions on the importance of justice, mercy, and forgiveness. It was so engrained into the people of God that there were procedures and rituals for every aspect of life. Whether the offense was moral, legal, or financial – there was always a way for people to be shown mercy through the lessons God had given to God’s people. We see how deeply rooted this was in the lives of God’s people by going back to the origin story of the Israelites, to the gathering of Joseph and his brothers. A reunion that was full of emotion, rooted in forgiveness, and tinged with the an underlying tension we are all familiar with in our own lives.
Joseph’s story begins with a classic case of parental favoritism. Joseph’s father loved Jospeh more than any of his other sons, being the firstborn of his favorite wife, Rachel. There’s a little ambiguity in the timeline of Joseph’s birth, so at the time he may have been her only son. Joseph spoiled his son, dressing him in the best clothing, making him unfit to be out in the fields with his brothers. The favoritism eventually led to a feud between the brothers, and that feud ended with them planning to kill Joseph. One brother thought to spare him his life, and through a few chance meetings, Joseph was sold into slavery. He would grow to prominence, then be cast into prison. Finally, becoming powerful through his working with Pharoah on rationing.
The famine that had decimated the Levant was avoided in Egypt through wat Joseph did. However, there was a different work going on within Joseph across his time in Egypt. That work was the work of forgiveness. See, the way this story is told makes us jump from one reality to the other – at first they are planning to kill one another and then all of a sudden they are at peace. However, years have passed between one moment and the other, an entire lifetime of growth was allowed for each person to come to terms with their part in this disaster. Joseph had time to think about his brother’s sin, and each brother their own guilt in the situation.
While Joseph was in Egypt, most every one of his brothers were humbled in some way. Jacob, their father, had his own failings that led to some of their falling out. Some of his brothers sought revenge for an attack on their family, Judah failed several times in several way. Each sibling was shown through their own life that living for themselves was not going to be enough to survive in this world. Each was humbled, disaster after disaster, and learned to be a better person because of it. It was after all this growth that they came to Egypt seeking relief from the famine, and after all this that they were able to reclaim their relationship with their brother.
When they first came to Egypt, they were met by Joseph in all his glory. Dressed as an Egyptian and decked out in all manner of finery, they had no idea who Joseph was. Joseph spoke through an interpreter to continue the illusion that he was a stranger – allowing him to listen to his brothers as they worried about what this official would think of them. Joseph was overly kind to his brothers, but also played up their anxieties. He hid the money they had paid for the food in the bags of grain he sent with them, so that on arrival they had to worry if they’d be accused of theft upon return. Joseph also kept one of the brothers, Simeon, as collateral until they returned with his younger brother, another child of Rachel, Benjamin.
The crew would be accused of theft once more after they came into Egypt, another game of Joseph. He had hidden a silver cup in Bemjamin’s bag. When the brothers returned, sure they were to be killed or enslaved, Judah offered himself up in the place of his brothers. His sacrifice was made with his father in mind – an old man who had lost so much, two of his children and his beloved wife, could not lose anything else. So, Judah offered himself so that at least Jacbo could have his youngest child to be a part of his life still. It is this offer that causes Joseph to drop his act, confess his identity, and declare his forgiveness toward his brothers.
The saga of their lives was long, complicated, and messy as can be. For those of us reading it, we trace their life across a few dozen pages and call it a day. However, for each person in this story there were years and years of life to be lived. It was not a flip of the switch for forgiveness to given, or for enough growth to have happened to allow for a genuine reconciliation between these brothers. Joseph, the miracle worker who saved Egypt, and his brothers, the cheats who had sold him into slavery – they did not get to where they were in this moment overnight.
In the Church, we often fail to talk about forgiveness because we either make it sound like an automatic reflex or like an impossibility. We move on a pendulum between embracing a harmful ethic that never asks people to be accountable for the wrong they do to others and embracing a scalpel we willing excise people from our lives with because they have done something wrong. These two extremes are not conducive to a Christian ethic of forgiveness, and are certainly not what we ought to be pursuing as the Church.
Forgiveness is hard because it can take many forms and have many outcomes. Sometimes we are able to forgive someone, and in giving that forgiveness we find ourselves able to reconcile with them. Usually that is because the offender has realized they were wrong and done something to fix the harm they caused and the habits they had that led to the problem. Other times we forgive and still must disconnect from the person who wronged us. Still more, there are those who we have not mustered the strength to forgive, and who show no signs of helping the process through changing.
I think it is best for us, rather than dealing with abstractions, to try and picture our own lives. Think on the people who you know you have wronged in your life. If we are honest, there’s probably a few people we have hurt and not tried to make amends with. We should seek forgiveness, we should become better people so that we will not hurt them like we had before. We should ask to be forgiven, and provide fruits worthy of repentance. For those who have wronged us, we have to decide which kind of forgiveness we will pursue with them. The kind that seeks to restore a relationship? The kind that forgives and then parts on equal terms? Or the kind that is begrudging, limited, but ultimately freeing?
The ideal would of course be a radical forgiveness that restores all bonds that have been broken… The reality is that we cannot always achieve this kind of restoration of what was. The duty of any Christian is to do what they can to contribute to a good end. Maybe that means acknowledging that contact cannot be resumed, maybe that means forgiving when we would rather not, or maybe it means owning up to the mistakes we’ve made – apologizing out of legitimate sense of contrition rather than a desire to be free of consequences. Whatever the decision, whatever the tact, it is our duty to do what is right, and to discern what that means for the places we find ourselves in.
Let us pray then that the outcome can be like what our scripture shows us – love, peace, and abundant rejoicing with those we love. – Amen.
